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Been that kind of year

March 13th, 2019

The man responsible for shaping me into the person I am, for good and ill, was found dead in his apartment yesterday.

I hadn’t spoken with him in about a month. Despite a lot of talk about being a better person, he’d slipped into his manipulative ways. I called him out on it, after which his multiple phone calls per day abruptly ceased. He was the person who taught me not to back down when “in the right,” so I let it play out assuming that he’d have to blink for his annual tradition of calling me on the exact-to-the-minute anniversary of my birth. He ended up missing it by about thirty-six hours.

There’s a lot I could say about the man and the complicated relationship we had, especially now that I’m free to speak frankly about some of the shit he put me through as a child. It will be a while before that happens, because I’m still processing pretty much everything surrounding his passing.

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21 Responses to “Been that kind of year”

  1. John

    My condolences, man.

  2. Gil Roth

    Sorry for your loss, regardless of the ambivalence you have around it

  3. LondonKdS

    Regular lurker only, but I’m very sorry.

  4. Dale Glaser

    So sorry for your loss.

  5. Scholar-Gipsy

    I know how it is, both to lose a parent, and to lose a complicated parent. I’m sorry for your loss, but I know your talent for honesty and introspection will help you steer through these difficult shoals.

  6. Bruce

    Another lurker uncloaking to express my very best wishes to you during this incredibly hard time.

  7. EAG46

    Sincere condolences. I hope you will be…okay…during these very hard times ahead.

  8. Mike Podgor

    My condolences as well.

  9. Kevin Lighton

    My condolences.

  10. Ward Hill Terry

    Andrew, I’m so sorry. I came here to wish you a happy birthday, and that can’t be possible this year. I only know you from this blog, and yet I am so saddened by this news. My condolences to you and your brother.

  11. John

    Sorry for your loss.

  12. Till

    Another lurker decloaking. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I understand your conflicted feelings. I wish you, the queen of animals and your bunch the strength to handle everything. Take care of you and yours.

  13. DACH

    I’m sorry for your loss.

  14. Sir A1!

    “The sun sinks to rise again; the day is swallowed up in the gloom of the night, to be born out of it, as fresh as if it had never been quenched. Spring passes into summer, and through summer and autumn into winter, only the more surely, by its own ultimate return, to triumph over that grave, towards which it resolutely hastened from its first hour. We mourn over the blossoms of May, because they are to wither; but we know, withal, that May is one day to have its revenge upon November, by the revolution of that solemn circle which never stops—which teaches us in our height of hope, ever to be sober, and in our depth of desolation, never to despair.”

    John Henry Newman, Sermon #10, The Second Spring

  15. NJC

    Joining the Chorus:
    My condolences.
    I’ve enjoyed (and been grateful for) your candid & thoughtful writing for over a decade now, and shall be looking forward to your further reflections in due time.
    Best wishes to you and your family in this difficult moment.

  16. Crowded House

    I’m sorry for your loss Andrew. I’ve always enjoyed your writing and I offer you my sincerest condolences in this difficult and trying time. Do what you need to do to get your head straight and sort through your feelings.

  17. Sol Bermann

    My thoughts are with you

  18. Radoye

    My condolences Andrew.

  19. Zeno

    I’m only just seeing this now. I am so sorry for your loss. The ups and downs of your relationship with your dad mirrored a lot of my own so I can imagine what you’re going through right now.

  20. Mike

    Very sorry for the shock and grief you must be going through. Becoming an orphan is tough, even at our ages. I wish peace to you and your family.

  21. Kris

    I guess I haven’t visited your blog in awhile because I just saw this. For what it’s worth, my condolences Andrew.

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